About 1 out of 4 DNA tests performed at The DNA Lady's office, I have to report to a young man, You Are Not the Biological Father. Each man handles the information differently. Some, of course, breath a sigh of relief because out of no where, a woman he "hooked up" with last summer is calling saying she has just had a baby and it's his and she is sure of it. He obligingly participates, and pays for the test only to find out - it his not his biological child. He moves on with his life; and hopefully, takes precaution in future encounters. He dodged a 22 year financial bullet.
Other times, when I have to deliver 0% results, there are phone calls and emails and in person appearances - so much so that I have now declared my office a No DRAMA Zone. This is not a TV show - no one is watching your tearful performance and you do not get a free hotel room in exchange for your emotional outburst. The DNA Lady's office is quiet, personal and confidential. A man, woman and child come into the office, get identified and a non-invasive DNA test is performed. Paternity results in 2 - 3 business days. Most important is that we offer respect for everyone involved with the test.
One gentleman recently received the 0% probability of paternity results. His reaction was calm. His further actions, after confirming non-paternity were kind and courageous. Upon receiving the results, he informed me the young lady was living in his home. From conversations with the young lady, it didn't appear that she had family in New Jersey. This gentleman was slightly older and wiser than she thought. He knew he was not the father but to remove any doubt from both of their minds and to end her romantic charade, he participated in the Paternity Test.
The young lady and her new baby are still living in this man's house. Bottom line is she lied to him for 9 months about him being the only possible father. He is a good man that allowed her a safety net during her pregnancy and still today, months later. And now, she has finally admitted to another "possible" or "alleged" father, who will shortly participate in a Paternity Test. My hopes are that the second paternity test be complete as soon as possible so that she is able to introduce her new baby to the real family.
The benefits of private paternity testing are the faster turn around times and privacy. Had the young woman gone to family court and pointed at the wrong father - she wouldn't know for months and the court may charge her with paternity fraud plus the cost of the test. Given her living conditions, I don't think she could afford to wait another 6 months to confirm paternity. Her current benefactor's patience is running thin, and rightly so.